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Did you ever find yourself?
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I feel like I have always find myself wearing a mask of someone else. When I see someone I wish to be. I sink myself into that person's shoes. My voice pitch changes, the regular decisions I make is completely different, my perspective changes, my appearance, choice of music, my mood, even my dreams change.

How I would proceed to change: I would usually find something on t.v. and say to myself, "I want to be her, wife material and yet childish. Mature when needed". A couple days I would imagine a life story for the character I am changing to, last day is for my change of appearance.

I only do this alone, but when my family is around. I don't speak a word, I have no idea why. It is not just my family that describes me quiet, it is my classmates and friends. I'd get into random conversations from time to time when I suddenly become outgoing.

So the question is, Have you find yourself? Please explain how!
Posted 8/2/12
I don't think I've ever "lost" myself to need to "find" myself. Never had the thought of wanting to be like someone else, especially when i see what majority of people around me are like, it makes me happy to be the way I am. I've put myself in other peoples shoes when I try to empathize with them, but never try to actually be like the person lol.
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-Aidan- wrote:

I don't think I've ever "lost" myself to need to "find" myself. Never had the thought of wanting to be like someone else, especially when i see what majority of people around me are like, it makes me happy to be the way I am. I've put myself in other peoples shoes when I try to empathize with them, but never try to actually be like the person lol.


I guess I am the weird one T.T
Posted 8/2/12


lol I don't think you are, I'm pretty sure there are others? I've seen plenty of people trying to be like others, or think that if they do things that everyone else does, they'll be happy and what not.. So I don't think you're alone on this? :p
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lol I don't think you are, I'm pretty sure there are others? I've seen plenty of people trying to be like others, or think that if they do things that everyone else does, they'll be happy and what not.. So I don't think you're alone on this? :p


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i think its perfectly normal for someone your age OP.

I have always been pretty comfortable in my own skin. I have always been drawn to the strong stoic type figures since i was a kid. I try to be like them. think someone like captain Picard combine with james bond. Thats the kind of man i try to be but of course its with my own personal twist. I like to crack jokes constantly and be pretty laid back too. Over the years you will slowly figure out the kind of person you are and then you will find yourself striving to better yourself and you will find inspiration from other people you know or characters in books or from movies etc etc.

tbh, thats a really hard question to answer~

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Wow, what a strange condition you have. It's like you can pick and choose an outward appearance/personality like it's clothes.
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Its perfectly normal to want to be someone else, i personally think its a phase we all go through but eventually you'll find your own persona
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Yeah...I believe I was an insecure kid in middle school...I was in the process of changing...

I tried to be like...this cool kid...Or what I thought was cool at that time...
Changed the tone of my voice to sound relaxed, started working out a ton, gained confidence, or faked confidence. Became cocky, lost good friends, hanged out with idiots, acted like a 'jock'...

I started ditching that appearance, it took a while, but I ditched it.

Today I've analyzed my self, my actions, my ways...I know exactly what type of person I am, and I like my self, I'm secure of who I am...
So I don't try acting like anyone else.

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-Aidan- wrote:

I don't think I've ever "lost" myself to need to "find" myself. Never had the thought of wanting to be like someone else, especially when i see what majority of people around me are like, it makes me happy to be the way I am. I've put myself in other peoples shoes when I try to empathize with them, but never try to actually be like the person lol.


you see, this is where you're wrong. everyone is lost from the moment they are born. some people just find themselves so quickly they don't even know they were lost.
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Hi.
I don't think you have some condition and I surly do not find what you do odd.
Growing up I had some trauma here and there and (trying not to get too personal) I found ways
to avoid getting in conflict. So I would change when I needed to, to get by safely. In elementary/middle school
this continued, but less for my safety and more to allow people to feel comfortable around me and let me in. I would change my likes to people's likes, and so forth.
It got worse. Once In high school I realized how bad this all affected me when a teacher asked me "who are you and what do you want out of this life?" I froze because the majority of my life was be acting like multiple people. Now, almost 18 I have no idea who I am. I've now isolated myself from just about everyone over the past 3 years because this bothers me to no ends. I have no personality that defines me, I'm always just "there" and seem to fade away quickly. so long story short I'm still trying to find myself. Hopefully soon because it really is an odd feeling, but the fault is clearly mine.

I hope you can find yourself soon too, if that's what you want.
I never thought having multiple personalities was an issue but for some people it may be.
Posted 8/2/12

Project1001 wrote:

I feel like I have always find myself wearing a mask of someone else. When I see someone I wish to be. I sink myself into that person's shoes. My voice pitch changes, the regular decisions I make is completely different, my perspective changes, my appearance, choice of music, my mood, even my dreams change.

How I would proceed to change: I would usually find something on t.v. and say to myself, "I want to be her, wife material and yet childish. Mature when needed". A couple days I would imagine a life story for the character I am changing to, last day is for my change of appearance.

I only do this alone, but when my family is around. I don't speak a word, I have no idea why. It is not just my family that describes me quiet, it is my classmates and friends. I'd get into random conversations from time to time when I suddenly become outgoing.

So the question is, Have you find yourself? Please explain how!


When I was in high school yeah I guess you could say i did. I called it roleplay to keep to my geeky roots. I changed every other week to see if i liked that group which depended largely on hot chick exclusivity and student popularity power. I was everything from a goth-wears-only-black-attire kid to a letterman jacket wearing jock for a while. I dont think its odd, it helps you decide what you want to be like. My fav group was probably the skaters and muscleheads which was a weird combo at the time. No one really F'ed with'em cuz most were huge guys but they were pretty damn laid back and cool too so no one wanted to.
Posted 8/2/12

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-Aidan- wrote:

I don't think I've ever "lost" myself to need to "find" myself. Never had the thought of wanting to be like someone else, especially when i see what majority of people around me are like, it makes me happy to be the way I am. I've put myself in other peoples shoes when I try to empathize with them, but never try to actually be like the person lol.


you see, this is where you're wrong. everyone is lost from the moment they are born. some people just find themselves so quickly they don't even know they were lost.


You can't really say you're "lost" from the moment you're born, you have no ability to think or anything at that point lol. You can only be "lost" when you can think and feel that you are? I've never felt lost, or like i need to "find" myself. So looking at it like that, i haven't been lost lol.
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Hi.
I don't think you have some condition and I surly do not find what you do odd.
Growing up I had some trauma here and there and (trying not to get too personal) I found ways
to avoid getting in conflict. So I would change when I needed to, to get by safely. In elementary/middle school
this continued, but less for my safety and more to allow people to feel comfortable around me and let me in. I would change my likes to people's likes, and so forth.
It got worse. Once In high school I realized how bad this all affected me when a teacher asked me "who are you and what do you want out of this life?" I froze because the majority of my life was be acting like multiple people. Now, almost 18 I have no idea who I am. I've now isolated myself from just about everyone over the past 3 years because this bothers me to no ends. I have no personality that defines me, I'm always just "there" and seem to fade away quickly. so long story short I'm still trying to find myself. Hopefully soon because it really is an odd feeling, but the fault is clearly mine.

I hope you can find yourself soon too, if that's what you want.
I never thought having multiple personalities was an issue but for some people it may be.


This is exactly it! Even when I am alone, I still change. But I always find myself so alone...
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i always thought i had to find myself, but then after years of just realizing i mirrored actions of groups i hung out with and because i hung out with no single group in particular i realized that i didn't need to find myself, because i'm a mirror and that's me in a nutshell
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